Looking Beyond Fear

You may or may not have noticed I haven’t posted anything on here for a long time and the only honest answer I have for that is ….

Fear has been stopping me

F- false

E- evidence

A- appearing

R- real

Fear of being rejected

Fear of being laughed at

Fear of people talking about me

Fear of exposure

Fear of social media

Fear of lack of control

Fear of perfection

Fear of getting it wrong

I know fear makes me feel I want to hide, makes me shut down, not want to try, not want to engage. Fear leads to anxiety, anxiety being the brain looking for worst-case scenario, the brain over thinking.

But brain…is that true? Where’s the evidence for that?

We are in control of our brain… your brain is like an unruly child, if left unattended with a box of matches and a bottle of vodka all hell lets loose!!!

It natters and screams if doesn’t get its own way, whines if it has to do something it doesn’t want to do, stamps it feet in defiance and goes off in a strop…

What I am learning is if I look at my fear, break it down, and ask myself the question…. is that true?

It could be it, could not be…

What are you going to do let your child run the show?

I know when I have stepped forward and faced a fear I have been pleasantly surprised on the fact I felt proud of myself and it has lead to new and exciting things.

What are you afraid to do today?

What’s stopping you?

What small step could you do today towards facing that?

Today my step was posting this

Love to you

Bring Your Gifts To The World

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Bring your gifts to the world

Everyone has something to offer today

You have a gift

A gift of kindness

A gift of a smile

A gift of listening

A gift of a helping hand

When you look at another human being today ask yourself

How can I help you today?

Monday Meditation

In the morning before you pickup your phone, check your emails, get the kids ready, switch the telly on, scroll on Facebook and all the other morning habits you have performed over time, take a moment to gather your thoughts.

What are you thankful and grateful for?

What lovely and kinds words can you say to yourself?

How are you today going to react to anything negative that could come your way?

Are there any steps you are going to do today towards your bliss?

This video I find very helpful to have playing in the background whilst I gather my morning thoughts. It plays whilst I have my shower and get ready for work. It sets my thoughts right and stops any negative self talk.

Give it go x

Soul Sunday – Gratitude

 

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Being in the attitude of gratitude.

An instant mood lifter.

Practice as soon you wake and as you close your eyes to sleep.

What are you thankful for right now? Look around your space…

I’m thankful for my beautiful dog laid on the floor next to me, who brings me joy, love and comfort. I’m grateful for the bed I’m sat in it’s soft, warm and comforting and holds me whilst I’m sleeping. I’m grateful that I have a home to live in that shelters me and keeps me warm. I’m thankful for my warm cup of tea. I’m grateful I can hear the birds singing outside my room.

My list can go on, but you get the idea.

It helps to start writing them down, your own private gratitude journal because the physical acts of thinking it, saying it, writing it and seeing it involves more of your senses so affirms it in your subconsciousness.

Give it a go

It’s easy

You can do it

Have a good day x

Soul Sunday – The Path Of Least Resistance

What do I mean by taking the path of least resistance.

Life is full of making decisions, some small day to day, others life changing.

Some like wanting to start your own business, change jobs, leave relationships, move house, those kind of biggies.

Have you noticed that some things just seem an up hill battle, things get lost in the post, people don’t get back to you so you are chasing, plans fall through, you run out of money, whilst some things just seem to pan out smoothly, everything dropping into place, the right people appear, it happens quickly and that’s the path that’s meant to be, the path you are being guided down, the path of least resistance.

What’s going on for you right now that you feel is just wearing you out, it’s not happening but you keep pushing forward one step but two steps back?

Sometimes it’s just ok to let go of that idea, give yourself time and notice what’s naturally coming your way.

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Soul Sunday – My Bliss

We all have or did have until life too over, an activity that we get completely lost in, where the time just flies because we are so engrossed in what we are doing.

I call this being in my bliss.

Mine is sewing, in particular quilting. I can get lost for hours. I stick my music up loud, play songs I can sing to and boom, I am happy.

Above is a new project I started this week and this pattern is called the disappearing nine patch. What I love about this pattern it looks really complicated but actually it is simple to do, just a little time consuming.

What is your bliss?

What did you really used to enjoy doing but you don’t do now?

Do you need to rediscover it?

What Are You Grateful For Today?

Happiness is gratitude

I have been practicing this a lot lately.

If I notice my thoughts starting to sink into the pity party and crack out the party poppers, I say, either out loud if I’m alone or in my head…

STOP!!!

What are you grateful for today?

Then I start reeling out the answers.

Try it…. it will help!

This is a classic meditation by the amazing Louise Hay…. I love this meditation, really helps me focus on being grateful for all the small things we take for granted.

Love to you all x

Wordless Wednesday – Sunrise

Today is going to be a beautiful day!

Soul Sunday

Our mind doesn’t know the way

Our heart has already been there

And our soul never left

Welcome home

Picture taken of Haytor on Dartmoor in Devon, England

Not So Wordless Wednesday – I Am Here – Free Writing

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Talking to my inner peace, my space to take it all in, into my conscious mind

My physical body resting, peaceful in this place

My senses taking in the sounds around

The birds singing

The silence that isn’t silence

Humming in my ears

Whooshing of my heart

Softness of my breath

Clock ticking the fake time away

The now of just being here in this space

Taking notice of the way my physical body feels

The tightness across my lower back

Pressure on my tummy

The ache of my eye

Throbbing of feet

This all in my physical being that in this time I inhabit

Which is an instrument I can use how I will

Thoughts pinging here to there

I can be lead, let it me be guided for the better, learning, feeling

Being guided by an energy, a force that already knows

It is here to guide me

I am here to listen

Take note

For it is right

It knows what this ‘being’ is here to do

To teach

To guide

To help

To learn

I just let it be and it will come to my physical thought

My consciousness

It is right

It is all right

The energy has lead me to this point of now

I am guided

I am that

I am now

#Wordlesswednesday – Moment Of Peace

Today I just want you to do one thing…

Take a moment,

Sit down,

Deep breath in,

Then out.

Press play on this video

Watch

Enjoy

Just let your mind wonder

At the moment I am listening to the audiobook Instrumental by James Rhodes

I, unfortunately can relate to James way too much, but like him music saves my life on a daily basis. without it I would not be here in this life. I was introduced to James by Richard Reed – If you just tell you one thing

I would highly recommend a listen or a read!

Love to you all x

Daily Gems

Here is one of the amazing people that have helped me keep focused Jen Sincero

You are a badass… was one of the first books I read to help me on the road to recovery.

This email just popped onto my phone from Jen ……

Dear Badass,

Happy New Year!

I was thinking about you and your New Year’s resolutions for 2018, running wild with an optimistic “this year I’m not screwing around” fist raised high in the air.

And I realized that my personal resolution could perhaps help you keep yours. Hence, I want to share.

My resolution is to intend more this year. To make a daily, conscious choice to be more present, every morning. For example:

I intend to stop and notice five things I’m grateful for today

I intend to take a deep breath before speaking today

I intend to do something I’ve never done before today

I intend to organize my desktop today

I intend to chat up three strangers today

I intend to dole out five honest compliments today (to myself as well)

I intend to look on the bright side today

I intend to expect the best, no matter what, all day today

I love this exercise because it’s just one day at a time, which is the key to fending off overwhelm and helping you stick to things. You can do anything for one day. Hell you can set an intention before a specific moment, like before walking into a room (I intend to go slowly and take it all in), driving to the supermarket (I intend to be blown away by the miracle that is driving a car), sitting down to meditate (I intend to receive guidance on how to approach my boss for a raise), before visiting a grouchy relative (I intend to have compassion for my uncle who has had a hard life) or before taking a bite of a grilled cheese sammich (I intend to savor this bite and taste every nuance of its cheesy magnificence until I burst into tears of delight).

You can apply intentions to your resolution, no matter what it is. If your resolution is to quit smoking: I intend to treat my precious lungs like the great gifts they are today.

If your resolution is to make more money: I intend to do something that scares the crap out me that will push me towards my financial goal today.

Daily intentions are extremely powerful and simple because they break things down into bite sized chunks, shift our focus and, dare I say, make things kinda fun.

We have countless things all around us every moment to be amazed by, grateful for, thrilled about, educated from, in love with.

 All we have to do is remember to pay attention.

Here’s to a conscious and kick ass 2018!

 

Thank you Jen!! It’s exactly what I’ve been saying…

Daily habits

What are you grateful for today?

Love to you all x

Where Do I Start?

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Here it is then a new year, beginning of a new week, new beginnings la de da… how many times have we heard that over this last week, the pressure of it all, thinking ‘shit’ if I don’t start something new today it will be too late, then that’s it I’ve failed before I have even started, now I have to wait till next year…..

And STOP its ok its not too late, it never is, it’s always a good time to start, the only time when it is to late is when we are dead!

I know that does sound a bit morbid but it is true, doing the job I do, I’m seeing them in and seeing them out and all the in between, and one thing I am sure about until you take your last breath there is always time, hope. Now don’t get me wrong I have my days and I am not ashamed to say, well I was but I’m learning to accept them, I have suffered from depression, I still suffer anxiety on a daily basis, panic overwhelming me like a wave of water over taking my head and body and this is what I was talking about in my last post, how do I get over this…over…wrong word, I don’t think I will ever get over, but what I am doing is learning how to manage, learning how not to let it get sunk right in, learning how to let thoughts of self harm, panic, self hate pass through like visitors… nice to see you but it’s always nice to see you go ….

Daily habits, as mentioned in last post,

So if you wanted, for example to be a concert pianist, it does not happen overnight, first you would get the resources, piano, music books, then you would go to someone that already knows how to play the piano, you would get lessons, then you would take on board what they have taught, because they are the person that have already done it, then you would practice what you have been taught until you are familiar with it, trained your muscle memory, then go back to the person that has more knowledge than you and go through the cycle again, you get my drift. Well these steps are the same for everything.

I want to feel better, spoiler alert…. it is not going to happen over night, so I am going to need resources, I am going to need to learn from someone or people that have learnt how to feel better, I am going to need to take on board what they have to say, now for the big one…. PRACTICE what they have suggested, then when I want to learn more and am ready for the next step go back to the people that have learnt more than me and carry on the cycle.

Recap

  • Resources
  • Expert ….. Oh I hate that word… expert… a drip under pressure!!!! A person that knows more than I do, yes I know, I don’t know everything
  • Practice
  • Keep repeating

What I am going to do in the coming year, I am going to share what resources I am and have used, including books, YouTube videos, pinterest and my best resource good old fashioned pen and paper. The people I have gone to that have and help me, whether that is someone I have never met but their writings have inspired me, to the people around in my life. How I practice, how I make time in my busy life of working in the ambulance service and now starting a second job in a mental health hospital, a family, grandchildren, dogs, you know all those time zappers. And how I find the motivation to keep going, what helps me, what stops me sinking into the pit with my dark passenger. And if any of this helps you then great! But if it does not then I am helping someone, I am helping me.

Love to you all x

3 Things I Am Grateful For Today…

Freedom

Today I had the freedom to wake when I chose, freedom to make a cuppa tea, freedom to get back into a comfy bed, freedom of technology, freedom of my own choice, freedom to make my own decisions, if I want to go back to sleep , I can, if I want to get up and go out, I can, freedom is a beautiful thing.

Health

Today I woke up and and have the gift of a new day, I can walk without pain, I can breath without a struggle. I can see the beautiful world around me and can hear my radio and my family.

Family

Whether that is my blood family or my chosen family, they are here if I need them, here to make me smile, here to listen to me, just here.

What are you grateful for today?

From the smallest thing…

Warm cup of tea, clean sheets, day off work, stroll down to the shop, birds singing, fresh air…

 

 

WPC – Ephemeral 

  

This is a rare fleeting moment when my OH was on an Alaskan cruise, a whales tail as it dives deeper into the water!

Is there a snail on the the tail of the whale? 

Weekly Photo Challenge 

WPC – Rule of Thirds

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Weekly Photo Challenge

This is a picture of my handsome boy! Any excuse to show you a picture of him, but I think it fits today’s challenge, he is nearly in the third, but you have got the blurry background!

Take care x