Looking Beyond Fear

You may or may not have noticed I haven’t posted anything on here for a long time and the only honest answer I have for that is ….

Fear has been stopping me

F- false

E- evidence

A- appearing

R- real

Fear of being rejected

Fear of being laughed at

Fear of people talking about me

Fear of exposure

Fear of social media

Fear of lack of control

Fear of perfection

Fear of getting it wrong

I know fear makes me feel I want to hide, makes me shut down, not want to try, not want to engage. Fear leads to anxiety, anxiety being the brain looking for worst-case scenario, the brain over thinking.

But brain…is that true? Where’s the evidence for that?

We are in control of our brain… your brain is like an unruly child, if left unattended with a box of matches and a bottle of vodka all hell lets loose!!!

It natters and screams if doesn’t get its own way, whines if it has to do something it doesn’t want to do, stamps it feet in defiance and goes off in a strop…

What I am learning is if I look at my fear, break it down, and ask myself the question…. is that true?

It could be it, could not be…

What are you going to do let your child run the show?

I know when I have stepped forward and faced a fear I have been pleasantly surprised on the fact I felt proud of myself and it has lead to new and exciting things.

What are you afraid to do today?

What’s stopping you?

What small step could you do today towards facing that?

Today my step was posting this

Love to you

Follow Your Bliss

 
If you follow your bliss,
you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while,
waiting for you,
and the life that you ought to be living is the one you are living.
Wherever you are — if you are following your bliss, you are enjoying that refreshment, that life within you, all the time.
In other words, if you do things you are passionate about, you’ll feel fully alive and doors will open up for you

 

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Tuesday Tune

Music is a massive factor in my life. It helps so much for lifting up my vibration. Of cause music can also have the opposite effect can’t it. We all have that tune that takes us back to a time, and we instantly feel those same emotions again. This is why have a playlist that if i need to be brought instantly up I stick it on and off I go dancing around the lounge.

This song is one of those for me, and thanks to my beautiful friend it is new to my repertoire of uplifters. This is the one I stick on when i’m tired after a long difficult night shift and I have only had 3 hours sleep, it never fails to have me dancing around the house.

Enjoy my lovelies x

Monday Meditation

Take a breath this morning

The dog can wait

The dishes will still be there in 5 mins

Write your worries down and put them to one side

It will be ok

You’ve got this

Love to you all x

Soul Sunday – My Bliss

We all have or did have until life too over, an activity that we get completely lost in, where the time just flies because we are so engrossed in what we are doing.

I call this being in my bliss.

Mine is sewing, in particular quilting. I can get lost for hours. I stick my music up loud, play songs I can sing to and boom, I am happy.

Above is a new project I started this week and this pattern is called the disappearing nine patch. What I love about this pattern it looks really complicated but actually it is simple to do, just a little time consuming.

What is your bliss?

What did you really used to enjoy doing but you don’t do now?

Do you need to rediscover it?

Selfie Sunday – Being Mum

My boys…  
  
 
The journey of being mum has at times been a roller coaster ride. It was a job that I never thought I would undertake because I was never the mumsy type. Don’t get me wrong I always liked children, other people’s, you can hand them back you see. I was never a mum that carried tissues in their bag to wipe sticky fingers, I was rubbish at remembering things like PE kits, dentist appointments, my best trick was turning up to appointments on the wrong day, remembering to pick them up after clubs. I was one of those mums as a teacher we hated, sending them in without a coat, not naming their clothes, not turning up for parents evening because I had lost the slip. To be fair I was expecting them both to be in therapy by the time they were teenagers because of the crap mother they had but apparently they seemed to have turned out alright, they say they love me. 

They say they liked the fact I was relaxed not pushy, fun, I didn’t  mollycoddle. I have taught them independents, they grew up able to cook, clean, look after themselves, help other people with no fussing or nagging on my part.  I just let them get on with things and learn by their own mistakes, which believe you me they have made some. 

At times I didn’t want to be a mum anymore, it’s the hardest job going, it’s a role that I wanted to  be better at, I wanted to be an earth mother, Mother Teresa, Mary Poppins, but I am not, I’m just me, doing the best job in the best way that I can! X